So I’ve officially been a DMV (DC, Maryland, Virginia) resident for three months now. I miss my friends and family a ton, the cold really isn’t the bad, I’m working at my dream job, and the guys on dating apps are seriously unattractive.
I was super excited for 2020, you know? Everything was new and I was being so optimistic. I was even telling you that this was the year I was going to fall in love haha and then came Brennan. Haha.
Before you get all excited, no, this is not a post about a whirlwind romance. This is a reminder of self-love that I feel I need from time to time. If you wanna use it as a reminder too, I don’t mind. I’ll hype us both up!
It’s natural to want to be loved and give love. It doesn’t make you a simp or soft or any of that. I think sometimes you’re so hopeful for it that you’ll lower your standards for it. I want you to stop.
There is zero reason to settle and not get everything that you want. You work extremely hard to make sure that you kill it at work, that you’re a great sibling, an amazing child, an incredible friend… why would you not keep that same energy when dating?
You want someone who’s eager to spend time with you? You can have that.
You want someone that gets your car washed for you because they know you just won’t do it? You can have that.
You want someone that’s going to surprise you with your favorite dessert just because? You can have that.
You can have it all because you’re not asking for too much. Avoid people that make you question your worth and make you feel hard to love. Surround yourself only with people that genuinely like you and have your best interest at heart. Always remember that how someone treats you is not always a reflection of you but more often how they feel about themselves.
I want you to get better at just walking away when you feel something or someone is no longer serving a positive purpose in your life. There are so many more productive things you could be doing with your time than worrying why they aren’t texting you back (The answer is: They don’t want to). Imagine all the love that you’d pour into a significant other. Now put all that energy into yourself and your goals. There’s no way you’d ever allow someone to love you less than you love yourself.
And I’m so proud of you for that.